Set Healthy Boundaries!!!!There a lot of misconceptions about what boundaries are and do for relationships. We may feel that boundaries are unnecessary because our partner is supposed to already know and act on our needs and wants, or that they ruin the relationship or interfere with the spice. In reality, all healthy relationships have boundaries! A relationship can’t be healthy until both partners communicate their boundaries clearly, and the other person respects them. Healthy boundaries in a relationship don’t come naturally, nor do they come easily. Below is a list of both healthy aspects in a relationship:
Communicate your thoughts with one another.
Never assume or guess your partner’s feelings
Follow through on what you say.
Take responsibility for your actions.
Be clear about your needs.
Be specific and direct.
Be SELF AWARE.
Try the sandwich approach. This consists of a compliment, criticism, compliment. Starting with a compliment prevents your partner from getting defensive…“This primes them for a little criticism, they feel connected and comfortable enough to take it, and then it closes with a compliment.
“All Love Stories are Beautiful But Ours Is My Favourite”
To Start With…….
Thanks to My Love For Making Me Feel What Love Is All About
“Million things in my head, but you still find your way into it, everytime. I feel a thousands emotions daily, so many mood swings. But you, you always find a way to calm down my storm. I am a mess most of the time chaotic and you still adore me . I don’t know what made Us click ten thousand mile apart. I wonder what you find in me, But i know and I know very well that you will always have my heart, always. You took so long to come to me but you came at the right time and we are going to be forever and forever”.
We started our relationship by not even seeing each other in person, Still cant believe it all started with one video call and now going to complete our 100 days of love.
” Most Important Life Decision are Taken In Impulse “
As a teenager, I never thought I would end up in a long distance relationship, because I only heard negative things about them. But I’m here to tell you that they are indeed possible, not pursuing someone just because there are some miles in between the two of you.
Distance Is Just A Word
As you might know from another “Spend Quality Time Distance Is Just A Word When Two Hearts are Together” and there are plenty of pros and cons associated with long distance relationships. For some people, the distance isn’t that hard to handle; for others, it’s a forced way of living
But, one thing for sure realized it from my life, if it’s God’s will, it will definitely work.
Those who have undergone and Undergoing a long distance relationship know it takes trust, communication, patience, and a million other things to handle. Commonly there is so much fear and anxiety often connected to just the idea of a long distance relationship, sometimes the Charmness that can shine forth can be missed, and simple ways and means to stay connected and grow may be ignored.
Thumb Rules for a Happier and Healthy Relationship
Communication is Everything
Good communication is integral in every relationship, but it’s taken to a whole new level in long distance relationships. Considering that the majority of your communication isn’t in person, it’s really important to be deliberate and transparent when you talk.
One major misconception is that long distance relationships require constant communication, but actually not What’s vital is the quality of communication, not the quantity.
Enjoy and Cherish Every Little Things
No matter what it can sound silly or crazy but don’t hesitate to express that keeps the relationship more lively and also care of every little things possible
Learn to Verbally express your feelings. When you’re physically next to your partner than you can get away with the whole “actions speak louder than words” so if “I show my partner that I love them and I’m sorry than I don’t actually have to say the words.” This attitude won’t give hands in a long distance relationships. You have to let go of your contentment and tell your partner how you feel or the distance between you will grow,have some flowers delivered, but you must also learn how to communicate your feelings.
Don’t go to Bed With Heavy Heart
Make it a Point- Let It Out and Remind your partner how much they mean to you. Going out of your way to do something special after an argument lets them know that you’ve put the fight behind you and that you want to feel close again. Be creative and think about the things that matter to your partner.
“The distance maybe far and wide but my heart can cover them all. The space between us is so much more but you should know that I love you so!”
As We Do This…
Take every effort and make so much memories when You both get a chance to meet so that you can keep recollecting the the memories and cherish it when you both are apart
Make a Beautiful Love Letter in any form and present it when you meet
Make every conversation clear and transparent
Make it Verbal rather Texting
Keep pouring love and show each other how you both mean to each other
Keep sharing your dreams about the future
Often share pictures you both took together
Make some special moments like adding new love ingredients in every day conversation.
“Distance makes the heart grow fonder.” –Trust The Magic
The 5 Love Languages ~ the secret to love that lasts By Gary Chapman
“Love is a choice you make everyday”
I was curious, and eventually picked up the book to learn more,although the book is aimed at couples, it had helped me with other interpersonal relationships as well.
We all have different emotional love languages, ways we express and feel love. Rarely do husband and wife speak the same language.
We only truly know our partner’s love for us when he expresses it in our primary love language. If your man understands only Greek, there’s no point in your telling him in French how much you love him. Repeat it as often and loudly as you want, and he still won’t get it.
So the secret is to learn to speak your man’s/ Women’s primary love language.
“We tend to speak our primary love language, and we become confused when our spouse does not understand what we are communicating. We are expressing our love, but the message does not come through because we are speaking what, to them, is a foreign language”
“We must be willing to learn our spouse’s primary love language if we are to be effective communicators of love”
5 Beautiful Love Language
Words of affirmation
Words of affirmation are positive words that build people up. Affirming words can include anything from making a remark about how nice someone looks to making a list of a person’s admirable traits.
Compliments go a long way towards making people feel validated and encouraged, “verbal compliments are far greater.
Quality time as giving another person your undivided attention, doing something the other person enjoys and having quality conversation with that person. Quality conversation is different from words of affirmation, in that quality conversation indicates that you’re listening to the other person, asking questions and taking an interest in what they’re saying.
Another love language is receiving gifts. For some people, gifts are important visual symbols of love. As an example, For example Some people never take their wedding rings off, while others have different opinion and attitude towards wedding rings.
The gift of self is another element of gift-giving, and is described as the gift of presence, of physically being there when another person needs you.
Acts of service
For others, acts of service (cooking a meal, cleaning, taking out the garbage, paying the bills and so on) demonstrate thoughtfulness, consideration and love. If this is your primary love language, you feel loved when your spouse says “let me do that for you”, and helps to ease your burdens or share your responsibilities e.g. cooking a meal, washing the car. Broken commitments, unwillingness to help, laziness/ sloppiness, or taking your spouse for granted, all send the message that your spouse doesn’t matter.
Physical touch is a primary love language for some people, and if they don’t receive it, they feel unloved. Chapman points out that there are many different forms of physical Physical touch can bring a sense of security and connection to any relationship. If this is your primary love language, you crave shows of care and love through is thoughtful touches, hugs, kisses, pats on the back, and/ or sexual intercourse, sitting closely on the couch, holding hands etc. For those people, physical touch is their emotional lifeline.
To discover your primary love language, ask yourself:
What makes you feel most loved by your spouse? What do you desire the most from your spouse?
What does your spouse fail to do or say that hurts you deeply or brings you deepest pain?
What do you do to express love to your spouse? You tend to do what you wish he/ she would do for you
“Explore The Book 5 Love Languages”
Chapman used many real-life examples from his own marriage, and of couples that he had counselled across the years, to illustrate the concepts in his book and how they can be applied to address different marriage/ relationship issues and circumstances. These are case studies help us to identify similarities and lessons for our own relationships